Monday, January 26, 2015

Marriage Monday: Things Happy Couples Do

Dr. Jim Walkup, LMFT discussed seven things that happy couples are often found doing.  Click on over to read the full article here. (Or copy/past the link found at the bottom.)

Spend time together. 
It's crazy how fast this one can slip away. Our time is pulled in a bunch of different directions and sometimes if we don't make it a priority to focus, to spend one on one time together our interest and devotion can fall away. It's an easy one though!! Schedule it in. Take off together. Carve out some time. However you can.

Know your partners love language.
It's common we love the way we want to be loved and those signals are missed because our partner doesn't see or understand it the same way. Invest a few minutes and figure out each others love languages.

Committ to 20 second hugs, twice a day.
Physical touch can do wonders for those endorphin's!

And I love his parting point. Focus on what you want to see more of. Compliment instead of criticize. Put your efforts into positive changes instead of digging deeper and cementing the negative.

Click the link to read the rest of this great article!
You can find his full article by Dr. Jim Walkup on the Huffington Post here.

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Monday, January 19, 2015

Marriage Monday: Potent Power for Good

"Marriage provides an ideal setting for overcoming any tendency to be selfish or self-centered...pure love is an incomparable, potent power for good, and the foundation of a successful marriage." 
-Richard G. Scott

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Monday, January 12, 2015

Marriage Monday: Nothing Complicated & Wedding Anniversary

"There's nothing complicated about reviving or enhancing your fondness and admiration. Even positive feelings that have long been buried can be exhumed simply by thinking and talking about them. You can do this by meditating a bit on your partner and what makes you cherish him or her. When you acknowledge and openly discuss positive aspects of your partner and your marriage, your bond is strengthened. This makes it much easier to address the problem areas in your marriage and make some positive changes."
-The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D

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My hubby and I celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary on Saturday. 

January 10, 2002

Friday, January 9, 2015

2014 Reading Review

I love doing year in reviews because I really do go over and over my books several times a year. Whenever anyone asks for a book recommendation I can't sit by. I have to throw a suggestion, or 5 into the ring. Plus I really love comparing my reading year by year. So while I realize this is mostly for my own benefit, I hope you enjoy it too.

Cranberryfries 2014 Reading Stats 

Total Novels Read: 75
Pages:  22604
Young Adult: 16
Children's/Middle-grade fiction: 8
Non fiction: 3
Adult fiction: 13 
Romance: 14
Historical Fiction: 8
General Fiction: 13
Mystery: 3
Fantasy: 9
# of those that were audio: 35
# of those that were rereads: 3 
Longest: When I Found You
Shortest: 12 Angry Men
Most out of my element: Flash Boys, Water for Elephants or Life in Motion
I'd most recommend to anyone: Princess Bride
I'd most recommend to adults: Attachments or The Rosie Project (some) or Stephanie Perkins series (Anna, Lola, Isla)
I'd most recommend to teens: Unspoken
I'd most recommend to kids: Encyclopedia Brown, Pet Wars or The Inventors Secret
Funniest: ?
Hardest to finish: Jungle Book or Life in Motion
Best Romance:  Maybe Someday
Favorite Author for me this year: Rainbow Rowell or Colleen Hoover
Most people would enjoy:  The Winners Curse
Most read author this year: Sarah M Eden

My Top 10 (in no order) of 2014:
  • Maybe Someday 
  • The Rosie Project 
  • Anne of Green Gables
  • Since You've Been Gone
  • Attachments
  • Isla and the Happily Ever After
  • Me Before You
  • Flash Boys
  • Hold Me Tight
  • The Rent Collector

You can see my past years here: Yearly Book Goals or by year 201020112012, 2013

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Monday, January 5, 2015

Marriage Monday: Love Demands Action

Love demands action if it is to be continuing. Love is a process."
-Marvin J. Ashton

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Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Reading Report November, December

What I read in November and December 2014

Up From Orchard Street by Eleanor Widmer
Historical Fiction

Immigrant family of three generations living together trying to make it on New Yorks lower east side based around WWII era. The story hops around focusing on different characters throughout the book but is told from one narrators perspective.

This was a reread for me (for bookclub). It was fascinating hearing the group dissect the story and writing. I breezed through it the first time but reading it in regards to leading a discussion made me have completely different feelings about this one. I liked it through the first time, but was more critical the second time through. 

Encyclopedia Brown Boy Detective by Donald J. Sobol
Childrens, Mystery

Encyclopedia Brown is a kid genius and notices, discovers and understands things a bit differently than most people. So when mystery's go unsolved Encyclopedia can find the answer. 

I read this and a few others in the series with my 8 year old. She LOVED trying to guess what it was that he figured out. I think she mostly liked flipping to the answers like she was in on the secret. 

The Law of Moses by Amy Harmon
New Adult, Romance

Moses has always felt cracked, broken and unwanted. In order to quiet the waters, he paints. And he's brilliant at it. Next door neighbor Georgia is determined to be his friend but he's not sure he needs any. 

I didn't love this one right away as much as I loved all other Amy Harmon books. I dont know if the characters weren't developed enough for me or if their relationship wasn't developed enough. I did keep reading though, but it was just ok for me.

Code Talker by Chester Nez with Judith Schiess Avila
Non Fiction, History, Memoir

Navajo men were asked to join in the battles of WWII for a secret mission. After they joined they were told they were going to help develop a secret code that the enemy's couldn't break. Chester was one of the original 29 code talkers.

This book was a memoir of Chesters life. It had a lot of story about growing up in the Navajo nation and trying to help his family earn a living, deciding ultimately that he could help them more if he went to school to learn to read and write English. I'd guess it's about half and half Navajo and WWII stories. I found it very fascinating. 

Maybe Someday by Colleen Hoover
New Adult, Contemporary

Sydney often sits on her deck and listens to a stranger, Ridge, across the way play his guitar. One day he holds up a paper with his number and asks her to text him. Their friendship is bold and honest and understanding. From the start through the book. 

This is my first Colleen Hoover book and I loved so much about it. There were a few spots I had a hard time with but I loved the raw feeling of it. I felt often times I could describe the book or scene in one word: swoon. I must say though, that I like Sydney just as much as I like Ridge. I'll probably reread this one again.

Hopeless by Colleen Hoover
Young Adult, Contemporary

When Sky meets Holder she's intrigued. At a chance second meeting she decides to get to know him. He's both her rock and what makes her world crumble. 

I'm an instant fan of Colleen Hoover after the last two books. I love the characters she develops and the connections they have. It may be because her characters seem more mature, grounded or open, I haven't decided yet, but I like it. This plot was a bit tough (without spoiling) but the story telling and writing made me stick with it.

Monday, December 29, 2014

Marriage Monday: Choose The Course For Your Marriage

"Every couple needs to take conscious responsibility for choosing the course their marriage will follow."
-Neil Clark Warren, Ph.D. 

More from Neil Clark Warren here.

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