First let's think about the amount of time, each week, that we invest in things that are important to us or that we enjoy. A list could include things like watching tv, reading, working out, playing ball, sewing, visiting with friends, playing video games, volunteering in the community, surfing the web, cooking, and other hobbies.
I love the following quote. The idea that if we invest time, devote specific time, to something that is important (like our relationship) we'll be more successful!
"After observing couples who had attended a couples' workshop and continued to make gains in their relationship, Dr. John Gottman created the Magic Five Hours a Week to show couples how to reconstruct their week in a way that allows them to continually make positive connections and strengthen their relationship. We know that nearly every couple has a million excuses for why they don't spend enough time working on their relationship. Between work, chores, and family commitments, working on your relationship often falls somewhere near the bottom on the list of your priorities. When it only takes five hours per week to make your relationship a priority, there is really no excuse for not doing so!"
Daily: 20 minutes a day x 5 working days
Weekly total: 1 hr 40 min
Weekly total: 1+ hours
With just those two things we're already up to almost 3+ hours!
What are ways you can add to your 'magic five hours' for the week?
date night out (or in!)
physical affection (hugs/kisses when parting or passing by, the 6 second kiss!)
conversation during mealtimes
helping each other out with a project
work in the yard
watch a movie
discuss each others days
Are you investing enough time into your relationship?
~Take 1 minute and write down 3 or 4 ways
you can add to your 'magic five hours' this week.
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