"We are all complicated creatures whose actions and reactions are governed by a wide array of perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and memories. In other words, reality is subjective, which is why your partners perspective on the past may be different from yours without either of you being right or wrong about what really happened."
"The bottom line of this approach is that there isn't one reality when a couple misses each other in little ways. There are two equally legitimate perspectives. Once you understand and acknowledge this you'll find that reconnecting just comes naturally."
*emphasis in quotes above added.
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