Monday, March 5, 2012

Marriage Monday: Complicated Creatures


"We are all complicated creatures whose actions and reactions are governed by a wide array of perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and memories. In other words, reality is subjective, which is why your partners perspective on the past may be different from yours without either of you being right or wrong about what really happened."

"The bottom line of this approach is that there isn't one reality when a couple misses each other in little ways. There are two equally legitimate perspectives. Once you understand and acknowledge this you'll find that reconnecting just comes naturally."




Qutoes in this post are from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D., and Nan Silver

*emphasis in quotes above added.

You can find my other Marriage Mondays here.

3 comments:

Jules said...
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Jules said...

Honestly, I think Seuss is more applicable than a discussion on paradigms. It doesn't matter so much that they are different, but that we have the skills and commitment to make them mesh. "We are all a little weird and life's a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love." ~Dr. Seuss

Debbie / Cranberry Fries said...

I love it! Thanks Jules. :)