I can't remember where I heard this piece of advice but it's a favorite of my husbands and mine as it helps clear up one of those blurry areas in communication. The idea is simple. And hopefully so is the practice.
Here's the gist of the idea.
You want to go out on a date this weekend but neither one of you have a real idea of what to do so one of you throws out the idea "we could go mini golfing".
Even though neither one of you want to go, you think the other one does so you both agree thinking it's for the others benefit. While this isn't a bad thing obviously it does save us from some of those times when really neither one of us would enjoy it.
When we can sense this is happening one of us will throw out, 'ok well I'm only interested about 40%. You know I dont mind going but it's not my top choice.' And either they want to go more like say 80% or they too dont really care and assign it something like, 'yah I'm 50% probably.' This is just a fun way to get a clearer picture of what you're both really thinking or feeling and can help make better informed decisions. This works for many things. Furniture shopping, spending money, date ideas, etc.
What do you think? Can you see this being useful to you?
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